This Is How It Always Is
Books | Fiction / Family Life / General
New York Times BestsellerThe Reese Witherspoon x Hello Sunshine Book Club Pick“Every once in a while, I read a book that opens my eyes in a way I never expected.” —Reese Witherspoon (Reese’s Book Club x Hello Sunshine book pick)People Magazine’s Top 10 Books of 2017Bustle’s 17 Books Every Woman Should Read From 2017PopSugar’s Our Favorite Books of the Year (So Far)Refinery29's Best Books of the Year So FarBookBrowse’s The 20 Best Books of 2017Pacific Northwest Book Awards FinalistThe Globe and Mail's Top 100 Books of 2017Longlisted for 2019 International DUBLIN Literary Award“It made me laugh, it made me cry, it made me think.” —Liane Moriarty, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Big Little LiesThis is how a family keeps a secret...and how that secret ends up keeping them.This is how a family lives happily ever after...until happily ever after becomes complicated.This is how children change...and then change the world.This is Claude. He’s five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They’re just not sure they’re ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude’s secret. Until one day it explodes. Laurie Frankel's This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it’s about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don’t get to keep them forever.
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"This is a book everyone should read. Beautiful story"
"A fresh perspective on a difficult topic. It helped me understand better what some families go through."
"I tried the audiobook. I lost interest before the 3rd chapter. YA reads are fine but this didn't speak to me."
"Phenomenal. I am blown away. One of my favorite books of all time."
"￼This is a story that is easy to get invested in. This family is hilarious the parents are amazing and Poppy is such an inspiration. It’s heartbreaking to think that kids have to try to make these decisions at this age and that they don’t feel like they can live in the “middle”￼. Eye opening for sure. I would suggest that all parents read this, even if they don’t have kids who aren’t sure if their outsides match their insides. Maybe people would be kinder, more understanding, and maybe someday, we can be a little more like Thailand. "