What Happened to You?
Books | Psychology / Psychopathology / Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Bruce D. Perry
ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLEROur earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah WinfreyThis book is going to change the way you see your life.Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
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"This book, which is basically a long conversation between Oprah and trauma expert Bruce Perry is excellent. It’s such an easy way to take in a very difficult subject. I think that this book would resonate with anyone who has gone through childhood trauma in particular but also, in any walk of life you come across people who’ve had it much worse than you. This is just as good as The Body Keeps The Score in my opinion but a little less scientific. It’s both shocking and sad to learn how much of life can all be tied back to your first 18 years."
"I've honestly been putting this book off, as I'm not a huge fan of Oprah's, BUT this has now become one of my favorite books and I'm really glad I gave it a chance. I was afraid it was going to be about her life, which small parts were, but overall this book was on topic and extremely relatable to the everyday person. Very similar to 'The Body Keeps the Score' and 'Whole Again' if you liked those/want more about developmental trauma 👍🏼👍🏼"
"So insightful "
"As a masters level social worker, I was familiar with a lot of the content. However, I applaud the way it was written. It was written in a conversational manner, but in a way that the average person could understand trauma and the workings of mental health in that aspect. I recommend it. "
"4/5. This book is phenomenal. It had me relating trauma to all aspects of life: fictional, personal, and others. This book is out to change the lives of many as the chapter first are complicated but progress to a more emotion provoking state. Everyone really should give this book a chance whether you have trauma or if someone you know has trauma."
"For all things trauma and self awareness, I highly recommend this healer!"