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Topic: Books
Monthly check in: How are you? Honestly. Feel free to vent or just talk. Happy, sad, mad, anxious, let t out. (Tell me if you don’t want a response.) (Tell me if you don’t want advice) otherwise I will comment back. I don’t normally try and give advice but I can. #checkin
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Abbz August check in. Happy August. I hope you all have an amazing month.
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Anna I think I’m good. I’ve been tired because of early work days, but otherwise I’m good. I just feel like I’ve been having problems with a friend, but I never see them, so I guess it doesn’t matter a whole lot, but I don’t know.
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Marsh still pretty bummed about the open homophobia on this app and how mods don't seem to care, and i'm alarmed by the recent misinformation on human trafficking (which is real, but people don't seem to care to actually educate themselves on how it works in the real world, nor how to empower survivors to help themselves, instead focusing on false 'saviors'). also debating if i have to flee the *** country if things go bad next election year for my own safety, and depressed about global warming. still, it seems to be a little better than last month. i've been hitting the gym a lot so my body is sore often, which is a good thing. i also feel like i'm gradually working towards my last few transition goals. and the air quality seems to have improved so i can actually breathe without pain. also my transphobic family is leaving me alone for the time being.
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Lisa Russel I'm sorry to hear that. Take some time to slow down and breathe. Sometimes, it feels like the weight of the world is on our shoulders, but there is still good out there. We just have to look for it. At least thats what I tell myself 🙂
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Abbz I’m sorry. Yeah that is a problem. I’d take a minute to just breathe. Don’t worry about next year, just enjoy today and what it brings. I’m glad it’s better then last month. Well said @lisa_russel
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Ghostie Gal I’ve been doing okay, I think a little better. Getting ready to go back to school and I’m excited because I get my own room on campus! I’ve still been kind of down and struggling with some insecurities but I am pushing through. I got a new job related to my major and I’m proud of myself! Ordered myself some books that are arriving tomorrow as a treat lol
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Abbz Oh that’s exciting! I’m so sorry, I don’t know what specifically you’re struggling with but just know that each person is different. I hope your insecurities are quiet for a while and that you learn how much you are worth. Oh! Congratulations! That’s amazing!! Heheheee books.
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AilaTheLunartic I’m sort of all over the place right now. One one hand, I’m so f*cling excited because i got Taylor Swift tickets for next year and I will also get to see my long distance best friend next summer. But on the other hand, I’m nervous about school starting in a few days and I’ve lately just been emotionally exhausted. I realized I had stopped eating, I’ve lost my appetite and I think I’ve been forcing myself not to eat.
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Abbz That’s so exciting!! I hope you have an amazing time with both. I get the 50/50 though. School is stressful. Please try and rest and take care of yourself. I have had something similar with the eating and my eating hasn’t really been the same since. With that my body just didn’t want to eat even though I knew it was bad but it made me physically nauseous to even think of eating, my body didn’t let me eat. Please just take care of yourself, eat when you can and stay hydrated. I don’t know if something triggered you to make you stop eating but I know how hard it is and I really hope it gets better.
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Gabby honestly, i’m terrible. with school and just life, everything is so overwhelming. i just feel alone even though i have so many people that surround me and support me.
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Abbz Oh I’m so sorry. That’s super stressful. I get the feeling. Sometimes we want to be more seen then people show. I hope it all calms down for you and you stop feeling lonely. I hope school calms down a bit and life in general.
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Anne I’m doing okay. There’s good days and bad days. I just started high school and all my friends are going to a different school than me. I love the school and the teachers are super nice but I feel like all my close friends are fading away. I’ve made new friends but it’s not the same. I feel like I have no one to talk to about my life anymore. It feels like I’m losing all my good friends. My parents recently got divorced (five months ago) and it’s been so hard. My dads been dating since before my parents got divorced. For several months before we met his girlfriend he would go hangout with her and leave me to babysit for six or so hours. It made me kinda mad because I’m with him every other weekend and he spends at least one of the days with his girlfriend. I feel like I always have to be a on call babysitter. Recently I met his girlfriend. They’ve been dating for five months now. I’ve noticed when ever my dad talks about his girlfriend or we hangout with her my anxiety gets bad. I get this headache and my stomach hurts and my hands get super sweaty and I fidget a lot. She has four kids and they are younger than me and I have three siblings and my dad has already talked about how he wants to get remarried. I can’t imagine having that many siblings. All this stuff is going on but I don’t know who to talk to about it. One of what used to be one of my closest friends is so busy now. I haven’t seen her in months and she doesn’t respond to text very well. And last time I tried to talk to her she just told me it’d be fine and things would work out. I get that she was trying to be positive about it all but I wanted someone to verify my feelings and let me vent. My other close friend just seems likes she’s getting tired of me telling her about my life and things going on which also really hurts because if I open up to someone it means that I really trust them. I don’t need them to feel sorry for me I just want them to know where I’m coming from. Sorry it’s so long. I’m new to this and had a lot on my mind.
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Abbz Hey. Don’t worry about the length. That’s what this is for. Thank you for feeling comfortable sharing this. I hope it helped. I’m glad you like your school but it stinks your friends aren’t there too. I hope you find a good place with your new friends and continue to stay friends with you other ones too. (Part 1)
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Abbz I’m so sorry to hear about your parents, that is super hard. That’s a lot for someone to put on a person. I get your anger. It’s no fair he puts you through that. It doesn’t sound good for you and probably not others too. I don’t know how you feel about the idea of remarriage but I know it can be a mix of feelings. I hope if they do, they won’t take advantage of your age and your babysitting. (Part 2)
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Abbz I’m sorry about your friend. Sometimes people just need to be listened to. Sometimes you don’t want answers, just a place to talk. I don’t know if it will work out, I hope it will, I pray it will, but I don’t know your life, I just want you to be ok. Aww I’m so sorry about your other friend. That always hurts. I get it though. You don’t want sympathy, you just want someone who will listen and understand. Someone who won’t judge you for your life and what’s happening, but instead just be there for you. I pray everything works out. Feel free to comment multiple times on this. I do check ins about every month so you can comment on those too. I really want this all to work out for you, I know how stressed you are and I’m sorry.
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